I Am Regretful And I Am Proud Of It

I Am Regretful And I Am Proud Of It

Regret, a word we don’t want to relate to. What if someone asks you “do you regret anything in your life”? Well most of the answers come as so well-practiced and unrealistic. “Naah! I never regretted anything in my life.” “My life has no regrets.” ” I don’t give any place to regret in life”. 

But why? My next following question. How can you be so perfect? Are you nearly a God? Are you a superhuman? 

I don’t understand this common answer people keep on giving. Why does regret considered as a character flaw or a symbol of weakness? Perfectionism is a myth and it is not achievable. We only measure perfectionism on the basis of our measure of doing things in a particular way. But can’t it be better than we have thought of it. Perfectionism is like an universe, we have identified a few galaxies but there are millions of galaxies out there. So stop this rat race. 

Let me explain this with a few examples. 

Situation 1

“You wanted to go to a party but you chose something else over the party. Your friends are posting pictures on social media about having a lot of fun in a party and now you miss going to that party. You are regretting a little.” 

Situation 2

“You wanted to stay at home but you went to some place where you don’t feel good. Now you are regretting and feeling, it would have been great if I would have stayed at home and Netflixed.”

Situation 3

“You got in an argument and wanted to put some facts and points but you couldn’t recollect them at the time of the argument. Later, when you were lying on a bed, all the factual statements are coming in your mind and you feel regretted that why haven’t’ they come in mind at that point of time.” 

Situation 4

“You were stalking your ex on social media and by mistake you liked their picture and now you are getting mad and regretting that why the hell I have stalked at the first place.” 

Situation 5

“You didn’t want to give your favorite jewelry or accessories to your colleague but she asked and you couldn’t say no, you gave that away and now you are cribbing and regretting.”

Situation 6

“As a guy, you didn’t want to complete a piled up work of your colleague but he asked you to do that and you couldn’t deny because of your inability to say or any other reason, but you regret that “Yes” like hell. ”

I am giving you these examples to putting a point that how prone we are to being regretful. You can fall under any of these situations.

Now have you noticed how casually I used this word “regret” in all these incidents? Is it questioning your strength of character? Then why do we lie with much conviction that we do not regret anything in our life. 

Being regretful is a sign of strength. I have tried things in my life, I have made failed attempts in my life and I have opted quite a few things though my intuition was denying it. Yes! I regret that I did something which hasn’t turned my way out. So what! Does it permanently stamp me as a regretful person or should I say a weak person (because for me a regretful person is still not an abuse). 

“If I have regrets in my life then I still have targets in my life”. 

Regrets in the past do not define me. I will make regrets in my future as well because I will try things in my future. I will miss the chances I should have not missed, I will take the decision, I should have not taken. But I am 100% sure that I am not going to try things with a fear of regretting it later. I will come out stronger and wiser. 

Regrets make you wise. You will not repeat the same mistake so the regret. Remember, you are what you decide to be. If you feel that regretting is belittling you in front of others who are faking their answer of “never being regretful”, then I have to say you can be above them. 

“You can prove that regret is a human feeling and I am a human, not a programmed robot”.

I regretted, I regret and I will regret just like I lived, I live and I will live. 

Next time when someone asks you, “do you have any regrets in your life?” Please do not give an unrealistic answer as you are a superhuman.

Answer them, Yes! I am a human, I make mistakes, I regret later and still I try. 

“I try, not to be Perfect but to be Real.”

I am proud to be regretful. I am proud to be Lifeful.